 I
met my husband Witold twenty six years ago.
It was a love at the first sight. Today, after almost twenty-five years of marriage, our love is as fresh and exciting as at the beginning, only deeper. Years of going successfully together through all the challenges we were facing straightened our love. We feel like that every day we love each other even more. We are never bored together, and can't wait to see each other when we have to be away from each other. My husband is my best friend, a great man, great lover, great father of our three sons. |
| Many people were asking us what
was the
secret of our long lasting successful relationship as a husband and
wife.
We were able to share our experience with many of them that asked
us.
We were witnessing positive changes in their lives when they applied
what
we think is important in order to be happy in a marriage. It was
exciting.
We want to share our experiences, observations and conclusions with
everyone
that needs such help.
It is impossible to cover each important topic related to this matter on a few pages. That's why, we are writing a book such as this. However, here - for your disposition - we're going to point out some of the major factors essential for a happy relationship between husband and wife. |
| The first important fact is to understand each other. Or rather - to be willing to understand each other. Do we - I and Witold -understand each other? Most of the times, we do. Was it always like that, from the beginning? No, it was not. But - because we deeply love each other, we were willing to make this effort to learn about each other. Communication is so important. And not demanding from a partner to be our replica in term of a personality and behavior. |
| Here, we would refer you to
three great
books, very important in building successful relationships.
The first one, by the author
Gary Smalley, comes in two volumes:
The other two books, by the
author
Florence Littauer, are:
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| Although my husband and I are
generally
different types of personalities, we perfectly match each other in
terms
of the system of values, the general beliefs, the attitude towards life
and towards the other people. Of course, it helps us to perfectly
understand
each other and to make common decisions.
Is it an accident that we met each other? No, it is not - it is a result of some universal rules. Before we met, we did not know about these universal rules - but they work no matter if you know about them and apply them purposely, or you don't even know they exist. We didn't know that you can consciously and purposely attract to your life a person who will exactly match your description of a perfect, ideal partner. We learned about it many years after we met - about ten years ago, and realized that we were applying these rules intuitively, without knowing about them. Many people do that and they meet a person of their dreams and stay happy together for the entire lifetime. They think this is an accident, simply good luck. But nothing in our lives comes by accident. |
| So, we were both dreaming about meeting somebody we could relay on. Trust is a foundation of a happy marriage. Trust in any situation - in major as well as in minor, every day's things. It gives you a feeling of security and strength - and then, you can unfold your wings and be the best you can be. We both wanted to offer the other person our loyalty, so it is so natural that we expected our partner to be also trustworthy. We are serious people and treat everybody seriously and with respect - so naturally we expect our partner to be the same. Our expectations were very strong and - for us - very natural and obvious. The picture of an ideal partner we were subconsciously sending to the Universe, was very clear - and we attracted each other. . |
| Unfortunately, these rules work both ways. That's why, many people attract bad partners not even knowing they should blame for that themselves and their subconscious negative expectations. Did you notice that many times, if somebody's parent(s) were alcoholic(s), the children attract a partner who is alcoholic too? My husband was born in a sixth month of his mother's pregnancy. My Mom, before I was born, had a son born in sixth month because of a traffic accident she was involved in (he died). Our first child was born too early - I was six months pregnant (he died); other three were full term babies. A woman gets divorced because her husband was beating her - and every other partner she attracts is a person who abuses her. I am sure, you can list for yourself similar examples. A pattern created by subconscious expectations or subconscious fears that it may happen - we create negative pictures that eventually materialize in our lives. How to fight them? Only by projecting opposite pictures - positive pictures of a desired end result. |
| We advice you to go to our page "How to attract an ideal partner", where you can find a technique for consciously attracting the ideal partner for you. |
Very soon, this page will also
contain
a link to our e-book. You may email to us requesting announcement when
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